Three months of private, one-to-one somatic work, for you if you're fed up, exhausted, and ready to deal with what's actually driving your binging pattern, so it stops running your life.
With Alex Bottomley · The Food Freedom Therapist
You find yourself bingeing a few times a week, maybe every day, and no matter how many times you promise yourself tomorrow will be different, it never quite is.
You cover your arms and legs even in the middle of summer, even when you're boiling, because the thought of anyone seeing this body feels unbearable. Some days you look in the mirror and the word that comes is disgusting. You wish this body were different, smaller, less visible, and at the very same time, somewhere underneath that, you want nothing more than to be seen.
You try so hard to hold it together. You have the rules, the good days, the version of yourself that feels in control. And then, out of nowhere, you're overwhelmed, and you're eating past the point of choice, and you don't fully know how you got there again.
You've tried to stop before. More than once. You've white-knuckled it, you've promised yourself, you've started again on a Monday more times than you can count. And still, somehow, you just can't stop.
Food is loud in your mind. It's there when you wake up and it's there when you go to sleep, running quietly underneath everything else you're trying to do with your life.
If any of this feels familiar, you're not broken and you're not lacking willpower. Something in you learned, a long time ago, to reach for food when things got too big to hold. That was never a failure. That was your body, keeping you safe the only way it knew how.
If one of these feels familiar, you're in the right place
Bingeing is a daily thing, or close to it
You've hidden wrappers, packaging, or plates so no one sees what or how much you ate
You've covered up your body, even in the heat, because the thought of being seen feels unbearable
Food is the last thing you think about at night and the first thing you think about in the morning
You're capable and successful in almost every area of your life. But this is the one place you still feel stuck and it costs you more than anyone realises. It costs you presence. The freedom to eat out, travel, socialise, and rest without food taking up space in the background. It's exhausting to keep managing it alone.
WHAT'S HAPPENING IN THE BODY
Your nervous system is carrying more than it can hold. Until there is somewhere else for that pressure to go, food will remain the most reliable way your body knows how to come back down.
And here's why none of it held. Every one of those approaches speaks to your thinking or your behaviour. The cycle isn't running there. It's running in a body carrying more sensation than it has anywhere to put, and until that body has other places to go, food will keep being the most reliable one it knows.
Your body learned, very intelligently, to use food to manage overwhelm and emotional load when there was not enough other support in place. It was very successful in doing so, which is why it's stayed for so long and why it's been so hard to stop.
Strategies built on control, such as dieting and restricting, asks your body to override a pattern that once kept you safe, without approaching the underlying cause beneath it. So the relief never lasts, and the pattern comes back, because the conditions that created it are still there.
This work goes to those conditions. We work with your nervous system and your felt experience, in direct relationship with what your body is experiencing, so that food no longer has to be the thing that you depend on for safety and relief.
KNOWLEDGE & UNDERSTANDING ISN'T ENOUGH:
Knowing the binge-restrict cycle lives in your nervous system is something you can read in a book, and you probably already have. But knowing what to do with what's actually happening in your body, for your specific history and your unique nervous system, in the moment it shows up, is what changes the pattern. And that's the support you'll get in this space, from me.
This isn't a set of phases, and it isn't a programme you move through month by month. It's three conditions that have to be present for food and body freedom to become possible and they run through every session, in whatever order your body needs them, for as long as it needs them.
Two people can do this work and it will look completely different from the outside. That's not a lack of structure. That's the structure.
Nothing is forced, nothing is pathologised.
We work with the root cause rather than the eating behaviour, and we do it without shame or blame. Your history is treated as intelligent adaptation, not malfunction. Consent, choice and pacing sit underneath every single thing we do.
Learning the language your body has been speaking all along.
Most of this pattern happens below thought. So we slow down enough for you to notice sensation, name it, and stay with it for longer than you could before. That growing capacity to be with what you feel is what makes food stop being the only way through it.
You never build capacity without building support alongside it.
Before and while we go anywhere difficult, we find what already steadies you and we build what isn't there yet. Somatics of safety, regulation you can actually access in real life, and enough internal resource that your system doesn't have to reach for food to cope.
WHERE THE THREE MEET:
When all three conditions are held together over time, something changes that no single one of them produces on its own.
You become:
You awaken:
You experience:
A three-month, one-to-one somatic programme.
Private, paced to your nervous system, and built for depth and long lasting results from binge eating.
Three 60-minute sessions with me each month over Zoom. Nine sessions across the three months, held at a pace your nervous system and body can keep up with.
A dedicated Slack space for messaging and voice notes, so you are not holding it alone in the gaps between our sessions.
Access to an online library of somatic practices, teaching and resources, to work with outside of sessions, to support your journey.
Binge eating survival patterns shaped over years do not settle in a fortnight. A nervous system learns safety through repeated experience over time, and this is long enough to begin that in earnest, with the door open to continue.
Apply to work with AlexYou'd know by now if more information was going to fix this. You're not missing knowledge, discipline or insight. What you've never had is somebody working with the part of you that actually runs the pattern, slowly, privately, and with your specific history in the room.
Almost everything you've tried worked on what you eat or what you think. We work with what your nervous system is doing underneath both, in real time, in session, in your actual body. That is the layer nothing else has reached, and it is why the results hold.
I don't take a history and file it away. What happened to you, what you carried, what you had to become. That is what we work with directly. Your pattern is specific to your life, so the work is built around your life, not a protocol.
I trained through The Focalizing Institute, and the whole craft is pacing. Going faster than your system can hold is exactly how change fails to stick. We move at the speed your body can actually integrate, which is why this doesn't collapse the moment life gets hard.
I'm not an expert positioned above you. I know this pattern from the inside, and I'll be honest with you about what I see, what I don't know, and what I can't promise. You get a real person with real training, not a polished method delivered at you.
Apply to work with AlexWHAT I WON'T DO:
I won't give you food rules, a plan to follow, or a promise with a date on it. I won't tell you that you're broken, and I won't treat you like you're fragile. I'll tell you the truth about what I see, we'll go at the pace your body can hold, and I'll stay with you in the parts of this you've never said out loud to anyone.
Janet's story
"I stopped fighting myself and started listening to my body."
Catherine's story
"This is the first time I've felt like someone really got it, and knew what to do with it."
Food is no longer a source of abuse or negativity. I get to enjoy that food or eat food safely. That's huge. I am not in self hatred with my body as much. The body acceptance. The way my body dysmorphia is quieter.
Alex's methodology is gentle, SLOW, safe and was the first place that I learned and felt that I was worthy of all the best things in life.
I'm a somatic practitioner who's supported hundreds of women in their struggles with the binge-restrict cycle. Before I am a therapist, I am a human who has been through the same struggle as you.
I know this work from the inside first. I was in Weight Watchers by the time I was 12, already trying to shrink a body that was never actually the problem. At 15, my dad died, and almost overnight I became the strong one, the responsible one, and food became the only way I knew how to hold what the grief left behind. The more I ate, the more ashamed I felt. The more ashamed I felt, the harder I tried to control it.
I tried almost everything before I found my way out, diets, talk therapy, meditation, more diets, and it wasn't until I finally found somatic work and started to understand my own nervous system that I realised what I was experiencing made sense. I wasn't broken, in fact, I was surviving.
My ongoing exploration, combined with my professional trainings, including The Focalizing Institute, is what allows me to support my clients so deeply.
I am not here to be the expert above you, but to be the witness you may never have had.
What's included
This isn't just access to sessions. It's a held, private space built to change the pattern at the level it actually lives.
Three 60-minute sessions a month with me, over Zoom. This is where the pattern is met in real time, in your actual body.
The work happens at the pace of your body.
A private Slack space for messages and voice notes, so you are not holding the hard moments alone until the next call.
Continuity is what stops the pattern from slipping back.
A library of somatic practices, teachings and resources to work with outside sessions, at the pace your body needs.
You build capacity in the gaps, not just on the calls.
We work with the root cause: your nervous system, your history, your felt sense, not just the eating behaviour.
You don't just manage the cycle. You stop needing it.
Nothing is forced. We move at the speed your body can actually integrate, which is slower than willpower and more lasting than control.
Slow becomes sustainable.
I only work with 8 clients at a time. That limit exists so I can actually show up for you, fully, personally, consistently.
You get a real relationship, not a programme dashboard.
Pay in full
£2,250
£750 per month, paid upfront
Payment plan
3 × £790
Total £2,370, adjusted to cover plan fees
Due to the depth of this work and the level of attention and support you receive from me, I only work with 8 clients at a time.
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You are not too broken. This is one of the things I hear most often, and it's never once meant someone wasn't ready for this work. There is no history that's too much for this to hold. In fact, the longer something has been carried, the more this way of working tends to help, because it goes to where it's actually stored, rather than staying on the surface.
Because most of what you have tried worked on the behaviour or the thoughts. This works with the nervous system underneath them, in direct relationship with your body. That is the part almost nothing else has reached.
You do not have to be in crisis, or look a certain way, or have a diagnosis, to deserve support. If the cycle is taking up room in your life, that is enough. It has always been enough.
No, and I would not trust anyone who did. I do not promise recovery, or a finish line by a certain date. What I offer is careful, honest work at the pace your body can hold, and the same approach that has helped people who had tried everything else.
It is long enough to begin this properly, and many people choose to continue past it. Three months is the floor, not a cure. Most clients go on to work with me for 6 to 12 months.
Then we go slowly. You are never required to go beyond what you have capacity for. We start exactly where you are, and we stay at a pace you can hold. That includes not being ready. We work with exactly that.
If this is the work you are ready for, the next step is to complete a short application. It helps me understand where you are, and whether I am the right person to work with you. If I am, I'll share the next steps, and if not, I will tell you, and point you in another direction.
Take your time with it. There is no rush here. There never is.
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